Most families only have two children, but it is not an easy task to educate them to become successful. Not to mention other things, just the cost of education is a large sum of money. In addition, there are other places that also require money. Therefore, many couples leave their children at home and work to earn money after giving birth. Can the child be taken care of by the elderly?
Can the child be taken care of by the elderly
This depends on the situation, there are both good and bad aspects to elderly people taking care of children.
1. The elderly and children are separated by generations, and they tend to overly spoil their children. They see their children filled with love and do not allow them to learn independently during meals, relying solely on feeding.
2. Or chasing after and feeding the child, there is a kind of hunger where the grandmother thinks you are hungry, and after working for a long time, the child hasn't eaten much and is always feeding the child.
3. There is another kind of coldness, where the grandmother thinks you are cold and always thinks the child is cold. If you wear less, the child will catch a cold, so the children raised by the grandmother are all white and chubby, with poor resistance.
4. If children want to play with their phones or watch TV, they are easily conquered by them. Children often act spoiled in front of the elderly, and the elderly are prone to compromise. Soon, children will achieve their goals.
5. During normal play, the elderly always worry that the child may be thirsty or hungry, and occasionally stuff food into the child's mouth. This is also a very bad behavior that can make the child unable to concentrate.
What are the benefits of elderly people taking care of children
1. Older people have more experience
Many mothers are worried about letting the elderly take care of their children, fearing that they may have differences in parenting methods with the elderly in the future. But after careful consideration, Baoma realized that rich practical experience would be better than theoretical knowledge learned from books. Nowadays, the elders who have been promoted to grandparents are all in their 50s and 60s. This generation of elders also has a certain educational foundation and has not been disconnected from the information society. Therefore, the parenting experience of this generation of elders is scientific.
2. Older people with children are safer
Many mothers have seen news such as "nanny certificates and nanny certificates can be bought with money" and "surveillance footage of nanny abuse of young children". Compared to nannies who only have vested interests, elderly people are safer to take care of their children. Even if the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law becomes strained, mother-in-law is still the closest to the child. Therefore, in terms of baby safety, mothers can rest assured to let the elderly take care of their children.
3. Older people have higher psychological resilience
When a baby's body is abnormal, novice mothers usually feel anxious and scared, but the elderly have developed good psychological resilience through decades of life experience, and are often able to provide better advice in crisis situations.
Can the child be taken care of by the elderly? This depends on the family's economic conditions. If the family's economic conditions are relatively relaxed, it is best for the biological parents to take care of the children. If the family's economic conditions are not relaxed, the elderly can help take care of the children, but it is necessary to call and inquire every day, because there have been many tragedies of elderly people getting into trouble and children starving at home.
