Sense of security is the most essential nutrient for the psychological development of babies aged 0-3, and it has a profound impact on their future: whether they are brave, confident, etc How to establish a sense of security for children? Pay attention to these 5 points.
1. Reduce the harm caused by separation anxiety
When a mother goes out for something, she must not sneak away, but truthfully inform her child of the reason for going out and when she will return. Not to mention a few hours, because the child cannot understand, but the child's daily rhythm can be used as a standard, for example, telling the child "Mom will come back when you have dinner/wash up and prepare for sleep/play games." And be sure to keep your promise and keep your word. This can reduce the anxiety caused by separation for children.
2. Accompanying but not interfering with children's activities
After the baby is one and a half years old, their independence greatly develops, and they particularly hope to break free from the limitations of adults, crawl, walk and touch on their own, with strong curiosity and exploratory desire. At this point, parents provide a sense of security for the baby, but do not overprotect. That is to say, accompanying without excessive intervention. When he needs it, adults should participate in a timely manner; When not needed, adults can do their own things nearby.
3. Indulging in children's' destructive 'behavior
Do not use intimidation to prevent children from engaging in "destructive" behavior. For example, if a child wants to get a stone, they might scare the child and say, 'Don't touch it, it hurts in the stomach.'. These fears formed during infancy often accompany children throughout their lives.
4. Please don't say these words that undermine your sense of security
Don't say things like 'If you don't listen, I won't like you anymore' to your baby, it will make them think that your love is conditional. Do not mock or scold children at will. Instead, use words of appreciation, encouragement, and support to replace criticism, blame, and punishment. Do not threaten the baby, whether physically or emotionally.
5. Establish a good family atmosphere
Don't argue with your family in front of your child. The safest thing for your child is the harmony of the family, the love of your parents, and a relaxed and warm family atmosphere. This is the paradise where sunshine and quality are developed.
