Yoyo is a quiet and steady child with a particularly good development of fine motor skills. He loves doing coin insertion work the most. He can insert all the coins himself, and then ask the teacher to help open the back cover of the magnet. He pours out all the coins himself, and then wants to independently press the back cover of the elephant's magnet (this action used to be able to be completed independently), but now he can't quite close it. He has tried several times but failed.
Grandma sitting on the observation seat looked particularly anxious. At first, she called out to Yoyo, but later couldn't help but leave her seat and walk behind Yoyo to help her cover the lid.
How does the teacher do it
The teacher didn't speak, just used gestures to invite grandma back to her seat and wait. Fortunately, Yoyo remained focused on his work and did not notice what was happening behind him. He kept trying again and again, and even accidentally stuffed the lid into the elephant several times.
The teacher reminded her to pour out the lid on the side, and then quietly observed her. She didn't show any annoyance at all, but would stop and rest for a while, then figure out a way to pour out the lid and continue to try to align it with the lid. After about 15 attempts, she finally succeeded in closing it!
She also felt proud of herself for successfully challenging a "high difficulty" job, applauding herself repeatedly, and her grandmother sitting in the observation seat laughed uncontrollably.
Waiting for the child to solve the problem on their own
In fact, in life, our babies often encounter problems they want to solve but cannot solve in interesting and challenging environments. They get stuck, which is a simple matter in the eyes of adults. Some impatient parents sometimes ask for help on their own, which deprives children of their ability to solve problems on their own.
For many parents, it is difficult to endure the time when their children cannot solve problems independently, because parents can easily solve the problems that their children cannot solve. However, if we patiently wait, we can provide the best learning opportunities for children. Children who accept challenges and ultimately succeed will particularly enjoy that sense of achievement and gradually build their confidence.
If children really can't figure out what to do next, we can provide them with some verbal prompts for help. Therefore, as adults, we should not solve problems for children, but rather help them solve problems. Everything a child does is to conform to their inner impulses. Children can develop rapidly once they become independent. Never give them too much help, only lend a helping hand when absolutely necessary.
