Many times, parents' uncontrollable behavior is nothing short of cold violence for babies. Have you experienced any of the most common forms of cold violence? What are the negative consequences of these acts of cold violence?
Very busy, no time to deal with the baby
Adverse consequences: The baby feels neglected and may engage in clingy, mischievous, and destructive behaviors to attract the attention of parents; Or giving up on gaining parental attention can lead to a strained parent-child relationship.
The correct approach: When you are busy or impatient, and your baby calls out to you, please respond promptly, even if it is just a simple answer: "Dad/Mom is a bit busy now, can you come and accompany you later?" PS: Look at your baby and give a positive answer.
Get along with the baby with emotions
Adverse consequences: If the baby does not know the reason why adults have emotions, they may mistakenly believe it is their own fault or think that their parents do not love them. This will make the baby lack confidence, have negative evaluations of themselves, and feel guilty.
Correct approach: Resolve other negative emotions unrelated to the baby, cherish the wonderful time spent with the baby, and fully engage in activities with the baby. In addition, it is necessary to show interest and enthusiasm, and promptly praise the baby's creative ideas.
Coping companionship
Many parents often watch TV and play with their phones while accompanying their babies, which may seem like they are accompanying their babies, but in reality, they are just absent-minded coping.
Adverse consequences: Babies will imitate this absent-minded behavior, interact with others in this way, develop bad social habits, and treat others in the same way.
The correct approach: If you play with your baby, you must provide high-quality, wholehearted companionship. If you are really unable to accompany your baby temporarily, tell him that his/her father/mother has something to do now and will come back to accompany him later to gain his/her understanding.
