When a baby is just born, they can pull and pee whenever they want. Parents need to clean up the baby in a timely manner. As babies grow up day by day, mothers must train their defecation ability in a timely manner. There are both Chinese and Western training methods, and although there are differences between the two, they have the same effect. This article will talk about the training of defecation.
Chinese defecation training method: Early training for babies, early liberation for mothers
Many parenting experts believe that Chinese parents have not done enough to cultivate their children's independence. But the editor believes that Chinese parents attach great importance to and can't wait for their babies' defecation training.
1. Early defecation training is necessary
Early "is the biggest characteristic of Chinese defecation training. Generally, families start training their babies in defecation around the age of one, and many kindergartens require babies to know how to use the toilet by the time they enter the kindergarten at the age of three. Under the pressure of 'hard indicators', parents also have to intensify their training for their babies to avoid affecting their entry into the kindergarten.
2. Training artifact - open crotch pants
Open crotch pants, an outstanding invention that combines thousands of years of human wisdom, are probably unique to China now. The emergence of open crotch pants is indeed due to the rigid demands of parents: babies often wet their pants with urine, and the pants are not enough to wear! So, although this style of pants may be slightly indecent, it is still a beloved item for parents of 1-3 year old children in China, and its popularity has lasted for a long time.
3. Go pee
Chinese parents love to pee their children, especially the older generation. They believe that as long as parents can urinate in a timely manner, they can help babies break free from the constraints of diapers, so even if the baby is still asleep late at night, parents will pick up the baby and urinate every three or two hours. Even more positively, when the baby is still in infancy, parents have already started urinating the baby, euphemistically calling it 'keeping the baby away from diaper rash'.
4. Tightening and marking strategy
Training babies in defecation is a difficult process, and in order to prevent them from wetting their pants, mothers have to ask their babies every half hour if they want to pee. Whenever mothers receive a negative answer, they become extremely anxious, and the time interval for urging them keeps shrinking. Until they think the baby "needs to pee", they will involuntarily take the baby out of front of a book, from a pile of toys, or from a group of children to pee. Ah, it's not easy to be a mother, and it's even harder to be a mother of a baby who is undergoing defecation training!
5. Defecating and urinating anywhere
As a transition from urinating to normal defecation, defecating and urinating everywhere frequently occurs in public places such as parks and streets, with 2-3 year old children being the most common executors, regardless of gender. The ability of a child to urinate and defecate anywhere indicates that the child has been able to clearly distinguish the "urge to defecate" and has developed a certain ability to control urination and defecation, which is also an improvement.
The advantages of Chinese defecation training method
1. The earlier a baby learns to use the bathroom on their own, the earlier parents' hands will be liberated. If the baby already has the physical and psychological conditions to receive defecation training, then learning to defecate earlier can help parents to relieve themselves faster.
2. The earlier the defecation training starts, the more helpful it is for developing the baby's independence. It is natural for people to defecate independently. If babies receive this message earlier and no longer rely on diapers and parents, it means that their independence has been developed.
3. Independent defecation for babies is a resource saving measure. If we raise it to the level of the country and the environment, allowing babies to undergo defecation training earlier is also a resource saving measure. It not only saves money for parents, but also saves plastic and wood resources used to make diapers.
Disadvantages of Chinese defecation training method
Starting training too early is harmful to children's health: firstly, due to the immature development of the baby's sphincter muscle, urinating too early may cause muscle damage to the baby; Secondly, wearing open crotch pants for babies can easily lead to infections of the reproductive organs; Thirdly, frequently waking up and urinating children at night seriously affects their sleep quality and is detrimental to their physical and intellectual development.
2. Causing psychological pressure on children: Children are prone to frequent accidents (such as peeing their pants), and some parents may become impatient, harshly criticize their children, and even resort to corporal punishment. This can bring psychological pressure to children and have an impact on their emotional intelligence development.
3. Improper training can affect a child's intellectual development: If parents are too urgent when training their children, regardless of what the child is doing, they can interrupt the child arbitrarily, pull the child over and pee, which can lead to the child's lack of concentration and affect their intellectual development.
4. The practice of defecating and urinating anywhere has a negative impact on children's moral values: Chinese mothers rarely prepare tools such as defecation machines when taking their children out, and when their children need to urinate, they usually solve the problem on the spot. In the long run, this not only affects the shaping of children's moral concepts, but also delays the formation of their sense of privacy.
5. Overly extreme bowel training is also a form of torture for parents: some parents have extremely extreme bowel training for their babies, regardless of day or night, and they urinate their children anytime and anywhere, which is also very difficult for parents.
Western style defecation training method: let the child go with the flow, the mother is not in a hurry
The Western parenting concept emphasizes "letting nature take its course". They believe that as children grow older, their language and muscle control abilities develop to a certain extent. With appropriate guidance from parents, children will quickly master their bowel movements.
1. No rush in defecation training
Mothers in Western countries believe that the appropriate age to start defecation training is 2 years old, but even if it's a little later, they are not in a hurry. They believe that the basic conditions for starting defecation training are: the child can "speak" when they have the desire to go to the bathroom, the ability of nerves and muscles to control defecation, and the child can put on and take off pants by themselves. If these three conditions cannot be met, starting defecation training too early will not only confuse the child, but also exhaust the parents.
2. Skilled in utilizing various auxiliary "equipment"
At the beginning of defecation training, children are definitely not proficient. Mothers in Western countries are good at using various assistive devices to assist their babies in training. For example, using training diapers to remind babies that they need to go to the bathroom if they want to pee; Use various beautifully designed children's urinals and toilets to help babies easily solve the problem of using the toilet on their own.
3. Care about the psychological needs of children
Western countries value democracy, even for a child. If children have not yet understood and accepted the idea of going to the bathroom, mothers will not force them to learn. However, once they start receiving training, mothers will also read them picture books used for "mental work" on children's urination and defecation training, allowing them to enjoy this training emotionally and learn to go to the bathroom more voluntarily.
The advantages of Western style defecation training method
1. Children can master bowel movements faster: just like the original intention of mothers in Western countries, allowing children to master certain language skills and improve their ability to control muscles before training themselves to defecate can make it easier for children to master the technique technically. From this perspective, the pressure on the mother will also be relatively low.
2. A closer parent-child relationship: Parents pay attention to the psychological needs of their babies during bowel training, and the training process does not bring too much psychological pressure to the babies, ensuring their mental health and making the parent-child relationship closer.
Disadvantages of Western style defecation training method
1. Children are prone to develop resistance to training: Children who use diapers for a long time have become accustomed to the comfort of diapers. If parents do not guide them properly during defecation training, it may cause children to develop resistance to the training, thereby increasing the difficulty of the training.
2. Bringing a heavy economic burden to the family: It takes 2-3 years for babies to use diapers, which accumulates over time. The economic burden borne by the family is also quite heavy. It is reported that in the United States, a child spends about $2000 on diapers.
3. Causing more serious environmental pollution: According to relevant data, it takes an average of 30 months for American children to complete urination and defecation training. In addition, they do not wear open crotch pants and use diapers before learning to defecate, so they use 5000 to 6000 pieces of diapers per person, weighing about 2 tons! Not only does it consume a lot of resources, but discarded diapers can also easily cause pollution to soil and water sources.
Through the introduction of this article, it can be known that both Western and Chinese methods of defecation training have certain advantages and disadvantages. As a mother, you can choose the appropriate defecation training method for your baby according to your own situation. In fact, as long as you actively train your baby, they can learn to control defecation as soon as possible.
