When children are very young, it is a mischievous time. Whenever parents see their hardworking home being turned into a garbage dump in just a few minutes, they will angrily scold their children. When scolding children, parents' tone is inevitably bad and their words can be hurtful. Do you know the impact of frequently scolding children?
What is the impact of frequently scolding children
Beating and scolding children can make them appear obedient on the surface, but feel resentful in their hearts, and even learn to treat others with physical abuse. Using this method not only fails to educate children well, but also damages their self-esteem and cultivates abnormal personalities such as inferiority, timidity, isolation, and lying.
On the one hand, it will encourage parents who beat their children to continue to impose excessive punishment, making the behavior of hitting children increasingly severe;
On the other hand, parents who originally did not hit their children may also be influenced by this viewpoint and want to try the effects of hitting, leading them into a misconception.
What is the reason for hitting a child
One is influenced by traditional parenting concepts. It cannot be denied that traditional parenting concepts still have a subtle influence on many parents, such as "filial sons are born under the rod", "no one can grow up without beating, no one can succeed without beating", "beating is painful, scolding is love, and if you are extremely angry, kick your feet", "if you don't beat for three days, you will come to the house and expose the tiles", etc. Because in traditional beliefs, the relationship between parents and children is top-down, without the concept of respecting and treating children equally.
Secondly, some parents often suffer from being beaten and scolded by their parents when they were young, so they inherit the "glorious" tradition of the previous generation when educating their own children. Although they are well aware of the feeling of being beaten and scolded by their parents, and may feel resentment and resistance in their hearts, after all, they have grown up, so they foolishly regard beating and scolding as a natural measure to educate their children.
Thirdly, some parents feel that educating their children is a "tough job", and coupled with busy work or other reasons, they are too lazy to think of other ways to manage their children. They believe that physical and verbal education is the most convenient and effective
Although the child's physical development is relatively good, their nature has not yet been fully realized, and mischievous behavior is common. What is the impact of frequently scolding children? Parents who often scold their children not only have a bad temper, but also cause significant psychological harm to their children. Children may become disobedient or not get close to you.
