After their children enter kindergarten, many parents can breathe a sigh of relief and feel a little more relaxed, but little do they know that more problems may arise because many families now have only one child, and sharing is relatively unfamiliar. For those who are new to collective life, many children do not like to have so many children living together. Below, we will learn what to do if their children do not fit in with the group when they enter kindergarten.
What should I do if my child doesn't fit in with the group in kindergarten
1. Establishing partnerships from one to many
For shy and timid children, we should help them start with one-on-one communication, which can make them feel safe and facilitate negotiation and resolution when problems arise. Parents can take the initiative to chat with the children in their class and parents, making the child feel that their mother is also in their social circle and shortening the psychological distance between the child and other children.
2. Inviting children to visit our home
Even if a child is introverted, they will still have a desire to socialize with others and a desire to be accepted. Children dare not express themselves, parents need to help them. Taking advantage of birthdays and weekends to invite children to gather at home, the child will be more relaxed in their own home, which is conducive to integrating with other children.
3. Strengthening children's acceptance of 'invitations'
After inviting others to their homes, other children will also make such invitations. At this time, parents must encourage their children to accept the invitation in a timely manner, conduct "follow-up visits" with other children, and appreciate their children more to make them feel their position in the children's social circle. They should also praise their children's polite behavior at other children's homes and strengthen their good behavior. When children feel the joy of making friends, they will gradually change the social disadvantages of being unsociable.
Reasons why children are not sociable
1. Each child has a different innate temperament type
From the day of birth, children acquire different types of temperament from their parents. Some children tend to be introverted and reserved, while others tend to be lively and active. The temperament type of a baby directly affects their interpersonal communication.
2. Characteristics of physical and mental development
Babies before the age of three are still in the early stages of sharing behavior, and they prefer to play alone rather than with other children. In other words, the characteristics of their physical and mental development at this stage determine that their communication skills are not yet fully developed. On this basis, for children who are inherently introverted, they are even more likely to appear unsociable.
3. Inappropriate parenting style
In modern society, many families have only one child, often with four elderly people revolving around one child. Such a family environment is prone to excessive indulgence and attention. Excessive indulgence and attention will naturally lead children to be self-centered and disregard the feelings of others. On the other hand, due to busy work schedules, parents also have a lack of education and companionship for their children.
For introverted and unsociable children, it is important to pay more attention. The inability to adapt to group life is a big problem that may affect the child's future entry into society. Of course, personality can be cultivated. For unsociable children, violent solutions should not be used, and gradual progress should be made. Small gatherings can be organized on weekends to play with three or two friends and gradually help the child integrate into the larger group.
