When children reach the age of three or four, they need to be sent to kindergarten to participate in collective life. Many mothers find that their children are doing well at home, but after entering kindergarten, they develop a phenomenon of social isolation, which is commonly referred to as being unsociable. So what's wrong with a child being isolated in kindergarten? What should we do?
What's wrong with a child being isolated in kindergarten
The reasons for children's unsociability are directly related to parents' attitudes towards their children and the family environment.
1. If parents excessively care about their children and arrange everything on their behalf, it will cause the children to lose the opportunity to develop social skills. For example, what should I do if I proactively request my child? What can't be done? Additionally, if the child is too mischievous, parents will take things too seriously. This will make the child not understand how to socialize.
After the child enters kindergarten, it will be difficult for them to adapt to school life and make new friends. When playing with children of the same age, it is easy to argue and eventually become isolated from the group, leading to the child gradually becoming unsociable.
2. On the other hand, the reason why children are not good at socializing is because their parents are too serious. Especially for some young parents, due to a lack of experience in educating their children, they are too eager to see their children succeed and often have overly strict discipline. It will make children too depressed and not know how to interact with others. At this time, parents should relax and show a friendly attitude towards their children.
3. The child is isolated and unsociable in kindergarten, but becomes active at home. This indicates that the child is a person with a strong sense of independence. Encouragement and love from parents at home make one more confident and therefore more active in their behavior. However, if one does not receive recognition from teachers or classmates in school, they will show a lack of conformity.
What should I do if my child is isolated in kindergarten
1. If parents want their children to socialize, they should first socialize and often take them to crowded places to show them how their parents behave. After watching too much, he will also be infected and learn some methods to handle relationships with classmates.
2. Besides parents, the ones who know children the most are probably kindergarten teachers! Parents can have a good conversation with their teachers and ask them to care more about and pay more attention to their children, which will make them feel that they are being watched.
3. Parents must encourage their children to dare to express their opinions in school and not be afraid. For example, if you try to tell a story to a child and make a mistake, it doesn't matter. You will gradually realize that the more you tell, the better.
4. Let your child know that everyone is not perfect, but everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. Don't just focus on your own shortcomings and overlook your strengths. We should give full play to our strengths in school.
5. To achieve targeted treatment, parents must understand their children's interests and communicate with them more about what happened in kindergarten.
This article provides a detailed introduction to what causes children to become isolated in kindergarten, as well as what to do if they become isolated in kindergarten. As a parent of a child who has already entered kindergarten but is not sociable, it is best to actively seek out the reasons for the child's isolation and unsociability, and take timely measures to help the child integrate into the group.
